The National Sexual Assault Hotline will connect you with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.
The TIME’S UP Legal Defense Fund™ supports individuals who’ve experienced sexual harassment or retaliation at work to come forward to seek justice — and to protect others from similar behavior.
The TIME’S UP Legal Defense Fund can help by:
- Connecting you to attorneys for a free initial consultation.
- For select cases, the TIME’S UP Legal Defense Fund helps pay legal fees and costs.
- For select cases, the TIME’S UP Legal Defense Fund can connect you to and help pay for public relations assistance
‘me too.’ movement’s healing resources includes toolkits, a directory, and healing support specialists who can connect survivors with counselors, therapy centers, and other resources. You can get help or find resources by visiting the ‘me too’ site at www.metoomvmt.org, or emailing [email protected]
You have a right to heal.
Notice if you are feeling activated
Know that you may experience a mix of emotions–that is normal and you don’t have to set expectations for how you may feel. You may experience a mix of feeling ready to fight, despair, rage, shame, or other feelings. Honor how you are feeling — take a moment to stop when you are feeling activated, breathe, pause, and figure out if you need to step away.
Have a practice you can turn to
If you become activated, you may want to step away and calm your thoughts. You can focus on:
- Meditating. You can start with this mediation by Lauren Ash, founder of Black Girl in Om
- Going on a walk. GirlTrek is an organization dedicated building changemakers through walking. Their Black History Bootcamp is a good companion for a 30-minute walk.
- Working on art or crafts. No matter how big or small, complex or simple, working with your hands can calm the mind. You can start with a simple doodle on a sheet of paper.
- Journaling or writing down your thoughts. You can start with BEAM Community’s journal prompts for wellness.
Turn to your community
Find a community of loved ones, supporters, friends, or a therapist that you can reach out to in those moments when you need to decompress.
Additional healing resources
Healing Library is a curated collection of resources and organizations developed by me too. movement dedicated to helping survivors based on experience, need, and community. Use the tool below to connect with the right resource for you.
Community Healing Circle serves as a guide for how we move through the difficult and necessary process of healing within a community of survivors. This 12-week workshop experientially trains participants in our Community Healing circles model so that participants can bring the framework back as a tool and offering to their own communities.
The Loveland Foundation is the official continuation of an effort to bring opportunity and healing to communities of color, and especially to Black women and girls. Through fellowships, residency programs, listening tours, and more, ultimately we hope to contribute to both the empowerment and the liberation of the communities we serve.
Moving from Bystander to Advocate: This guide includes guidance to support people who are witnessing a sexual assault, sexual abuse or sexual violence and for when someone confides in you their experience of sexual assault.
Friends and Family Toolkit for Supporting a Loved One After Sexual Violence: This guide focuses on the critical role that loved ones play in supporting survivors and their healing, as well as the importance of self-care and healthy ways to process while supporting others.
We can change the narrative about sexual violence together.
Allow Black survivors to tell their stories
One of the most powerful things we can do to address sexual violence is to have conversations about it. The stories that make an impact are ones that are authentic and based in lived experience. We can all do this critical work by allowing survivors to speak on their own terms and in their own words. Directly quote public stories about survivors and be sure never to tell a story that isn’t yours to tell, especially if you have been told something in private.
Be unrelenting in naming and calling out harmful narratives
Naming the problem allows us to identify and investigate it. When you hear in conversation or see a storyline, article, or other form of media that takes agency away from Black survivors or reinforces the harmful narratives, name it for what it is, and why it causes harm.
Redirect the conversation
We want to avoid reinforcing harmful narratives. Once you’ve named the problem redirect the conversation when possible, back to data, to the authentic stories of a survivor, or an example of productive narratives that support Black survivors.
Take the pledge to support Black survivors
Take the pledge to show your support for Black survivors and live out the pledge in your daily life. By signing the pledge, you’ll be signed up to stay updated on new actions, events, reports, and ways to stay involved.
Take care of yourself
You are needed in this work but you cannot give from an empty cup. Be sure to reference our healing resources as references for ways to take care of yourself.